Mind Control


If it’s true that we are what we eat – and it undoubtedly is – then it’s equally true that we are, or become, what we think.

How many times have you awakened in the morning, and your first thought is “Oh, how am I going to get through today – it’s going to be awful”?

Then, sure enough, it was an awful day. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy. The way to change that, to start having good days rather than bad ones, seems simple. Change. Your. Thinking.

But doing that isn’t so easy. Here are some ideas that might help you get on the right track, to switch your mind to “confidence” mode.

You talk to yourself all day long, if only in your head. You narrate, you comment, you give yourself messages. It’s called self-talk. What is the tone of those messages? Is it negative? Are you criticizing yourself, berating yourself, discouraging yourself? I don’t know you personally, but I do know that you can make a positive difference in your life. You are the director of your personal daily movie. You can achieve the life you want for yourself. How? By curbing those negative thoughts that are constantly sabotaging you.

“The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you
were intended to be.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

So here’s the deal. Self-talk is something you do naturally throughout your waking hours. Positive self-talk is a powerful tool for increasing your self-confidence and curbing negative emotions, those thoughts and feelings that are getting in the way of your success and happiness. Start by listening to what you’re saying to yourself – and make notes on what you’re thinking each day.

Then challenge that negative self-talk. Replace it with the phrase, “I could be doing ___.” This will provide you with some choices and flexibility. These statements give you room to explore and feel better about yourself. Instead say, “I could have made another choice – and the next time I will.” You’ll provide yourself with a lot more opportunity to succeed.

Now you have a direction, a plan. Make a list of the positive things about yourself. Instead of saying, “I’ll never be able to do this”, try “What I can do that will help me do this?”

We really only have control over two things: how we think and how we behave. In other words, how we act on things and how we react to things. This is the only way we may control what happens next.

“You are only as strong as the thoughts that constantly dwell in your mind.” ~ Edmond Mbiaka

What you think is definitely a pattern, a habit, probably established years ago. The good news is; habits can be changed. Shifting your mind into “confidence” mode takes practice. It takes work. But aren’t you worth it? The answer to that question is a resounding “yes!” You absolutely, positively, definitely are.

Just as putting nourishing food in your body helps it stay strong and healthy, putting nourishing thoughts in your mind accomplishes much the same thing. It’s how you can achieve high levels of success and happiness, whatever form you deem those to take. It’s your life. You are in charge. 

Being more positive can help you be more successful in the financial segment of your life. It will also be responsible for increased positive feelings, a greater sense of coherence, an improved quality of life, greater empathy, and a greater satisfaction in relationships. Bonus: you’ll have more of the thing that spurs us on, the thing we cannot thrive without, hope.

Mastering what our mind is thinking is the beginning of achieving a more fulfilled life. The bottom line is that you learned to be negative, which means you can also learn to be positive, to be joyful.

And you can start immediately. Think of something positive about yourself. Then say it to yourself. Say it. Right. Now!

Carly Layne